Increased Capacity and the Path to Healing From Trauma

Trauma can shrink our ability to cope, making everyday stresses feel overwhelming. This post explores how healing from trauma can often be seen in an increased capacity for trust, connection, love, and more.

by | Mar 20, 2025 | Mental Health

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The Telltale Signs of Healing: Increased Capacity

When someone is on the road to recovery from trauma, a clear indicator is their increased capacity in various areas of life. 

These capacities may include:

  • Trust: The ability to trust others and oneself, which may have been damaged by the trauma.
  • Connection: The ability to form and maintain healthy relationships and feel a sense of belonging.
  • Authenticity: The ability to be true to oneself and express one’s thoughts and feelings honestly.
  • Autonomy: The ability to make decisions for oneself and take control of one’s life.
  • Love: The ability to give and receive love, both for oneself and others.
  • Joy: The ability to experience happiness and pleasure in life.
  • Creativity: The ability to express oneself creatively and find joy in the process.

Trauma’s Stifling Grip on Capacity

Trauma not only inflicts immediate pain but also has lasting effects, hindering the capacity for future joy. It can lock shame patterns within an individual, preventing them from fully experiencing positive emotions and experiences.

Healing’s Key: Unlocking Capacity

As individuals embark on the healing journey, they begin to unlock their capacity for love, joy, and creativity. They may express a newfound sense of wonder and enthusiasm, feeling more childlike, energized, and positive. This shift signifies that their innate ability to experience life’s joys is being unblocked and restored.

Healing’s Expansive Power: Opening Doors

Healing from trauma often leads to a profound sense of expansion and freedom. Individuals may find that they are no longer bothered by things that used to trigger them, and they can tolerate situations and people that they previously couldn’t. It’s as if a door has opened, allowing them to experience life more fully without the constraints of past traumas.

The Ultimate Goal: Freedom

The journey to heal from trauma is not easy, and the past cannot be undone. However, through healing, individuals can learn to liberate themselves from the shackles of trauma and live a more fulfilling and joyful life.

Additional Aspects of Healing and Increased Capacity

  • Resilience: The ability to bounce back from adversity and cope with challenges.
  • Self-Compassion: The ability to treat oneself with kindness and understanding.
  • Mindfulness: The ability to be present at the moment and observe one’s thoughts and feelings without judgment.
  • Gratitude: The ability to appreciate the good things in life.
  • Forgiveness: The ability to let go of resentment and anger towards oneself and others.
  • Hope: The belief that things can get better and that one has the power to shape their future.

The Importance of Seeking Support

Healing from trauma often requires support from others, such as therapists, support groups, or trusted loved ones. Seeking help is a sign of strength, and it can provide individuals with the tools and resources they need to navigate the healing process.

The Ongoing Nature of Healing

Healing from trauma is not a linear process, and it may involve setbacks and challenges. It’s important to be patient with oneself and to celebrate every step forward, no matter how small.

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Written By Dr. Marcy Willard

About Dr. Marcy Willard

Dr. Marcy Willard is a renowned child psychologist with a passion for helping children and families thrive. With a background as the former CEO of Clear Child Psychology, she has touched the lives of over a million families. Dr. Willard’s expertise spans a wide range of areas, including autism, ADHD, and learning issues. She is also a published author and a nationally recognized speaker and trainer.

In her practice, Dr. Willard focuses on providing a warm, authentic, and non-judgmental environment where families can find the support they need. Her approach is tailored to meet the unique needs of each child, ensuring that every family receives personalized care and attention.

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